Tuesday, July 1, 2014

The most intense orgasm for women

This was a question on Quora, so I thought I would share my answer here, too.  Some of it will be redundant for those of you who have read through this blog from the start, but it still may be fun to see it summed up in one place!  :)

https://www.quora.com/Orgasms/What-is-the-most-intense-orgasm-a-woman-can-have/answer/Shakti-Amarantha

What is the most intense orgasm a woman can have?

I've discussed this question at length with many women and their spouses/long-term partners.  All are very experienced with tantric sex, and all of the women have at least occasionally experienced real monster orgasms.

The first observation, and this was unanimous, is that "most intense" does not equal "best."  This is partly because, as another Quoran pointed out, you hit a circuit breaker when things get to the max intensity level and then you miss what comes after.  Around a dozen of the women I talked to have blacked out at least once during an orgasm.  Several reported feeling woozy or nauseous afterward and none of them thought passing out was fun.  It made all of them a little bit cautious about pushing for a repeat.

Sunday, June 15, 2014

Aunt Shakti's Action Plan for Proactive Modern Virgins

In my last post we talked abut women and when they had their first orgasms, and we followed the story of a young woman who had been sexually active for most of a year and was still seeking her first one.  As a follow-up to that, an old friend has been pushing me to add an article I first posted to Quora about how virgins can make their first time better and less painful.
Listen, I know this isn't strictly about tantra, but I bet there are a lot of girls and young women out there reading things like this on the web who have NEVER been with a guy. Or they've just done oral and stuff, and they're on the verge and they're kinda excited and kinda scared and NOBODY is helping them get ready.
My first time was horrible.  It was so painful and bloody that I pushed him off and made him stop.  It was about as bad as it could be for both of us. The article you just posted on Quora really needs to be out there so people can stumble across it in as many places as possible.  It's a really great guide to getting ready, and I think you should at least think about putting it on your website.

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Mailbag #4: First Orgasms, and How Women Vary

I've gotten a fair number of messages over the last six months from people who are struggling with the mysteries of the female orgasm.  This one showed up in early May:
Hi Shakti, my girlfriend & I came across your blog a couple of months ago and we'd really like to start learning tantra, but we've been trying to follow your advice to get "the basics" worked out first. The biggest problem is that Sara* doesn't seem to be able to have an orgasm no matter what we do. She says she enjoys having sex with me. She says she loves doing it & she loves making me come. She acts horny & rubs up against me to distract from TV or studying or the computer when she wants to do it. She takes the intiative a lot, maybe even more than I do, but I know it's bugging her that there's this other experience women are supposed to have & she can't do it.

Friday, May 16, 2014

Mailbag #3: Single Women/Meditation

Two of the letters about solo Tantra were from women, and both asked about vibrators.  I think I could have done a better, more complete job of answering them (sorry!), so I’ve rewritten and expanded on my answer for posting here:

I'm considered something of a radical pro-vibrator heretic in some circles because I refuse to condemn the use of vibrators during Tantric sex.  However, I do agree that it is a bad idea for women to use a vibrator during solo sex any more than absolutely necessary.  Even if you have never managed to give yourself an orgasm manually, I urge you to use your hands and go as slowly as you can for as long as you can.  Your goal should be to s-t-r-e-t-c-h out the arousal phase as long as possible.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Mailbag #2: Tantra for Singles

Before I start, I want to show you something weird and broken about Google's Blogger software:

Normal text
Bold normal text

Minor Heading

Subheading

Heading


Until recently, I only chose "Minor Heading" because that produced huge screaming red headings and I assumed that the other two choices would be even bigger!  As you can see, that isn't the case, and the huge red "Minor Heading" is apparently a long-standing bug.  So from now on I will choose "Minor Heading" only when I want a monster headline in the middle of a post!

Now, back to the topic of the day...  One of the most common questions I have received from readers is from people who are currently single and want to get ready to learn Tantra with a partner.  Each time, I have added things to what has become my standard response, but I think this now covers most of the essentials:

Saturday, April 26, 2014

Mailbag #1: Tantra Videos / Stoned Tantra

I mentioned last time that I’ve been answering emails individually, but that some of the exchanges are worth sharing, so with due attention to privacy, here are some of the more interesting bits.

Tantra Video Links

This first one is a response from Anna that I’ve already quoted in reply to a reader’s question.  New readers who bother to look at comments will see it, but the readers who have been following the blog for a while won’t, so I’m going to insert the whole exchange here for them.

Pisces Flower had this question: 
In the last several years I have done a short version of the lingam message for my husband before I knew what it was (as much for him as me!) I did a couple of massages based on the information I had read here and a couple other sites but it wasn't... quite right. I finally found a tasteful video and that helped but I've only been able to find the one. I found it helpful but not so much for my husband in regards to the yoni message. I was wondering if you could send or post the website Anna and Hans found with the hour-long videos that helped them?

Friday, April 11, 2014

A Free Tantra Ebook?

Wow, you guys are shy!  I can see from the stats that this blog is getting a lot of visits - about 5,000 hits per month after screening out the obvious spambots - but it has gotten only four public comments in seven months and 40-50 emails!

I have answered most of those emails individually, but some of those answers might be useful to others, so I'm going to start reshaping my answers into things I can post.  Unless I get sidetracked by other things, expect to see a Q&A format coming up for the next few posts at least.  And please send me your questions!

A Tantra Book?

Several readers have written urging me to turn this blog into a book.  There's more than enough material already, but I do have more interviews that I could add, plus some additional info and suggestions that I cut to avoid making the blog posts too long.

If I decide to do this, should it be just an ebook?, or should I do a "pbook" too?