Saturday, October 31, 2015

Aunt Shakti's Guide for Male Virgins

Sixteen months ago I took a break from purely tantra postings to post an article aimed at helping women have a painless and more enjoyable introduction to sex.  Even though it's not about tantra, that article, "Aunt Shakti's Action Plan for Proactive Modern Virgins," has turned out to be one of the most popular landing spots on this blog for new visitors and I've also heard privately from several regular readers that they appreciate being able to give out the link to young friends who are on the verge.

Then last month I was asked to provide advice for a male virgin.  The background was a little different.  The young man was distressed that he didn't know what to do and would feel ignorant and embarrassed.  He said that all he knew about sex was what he had seen online, but that he wasn't sure it would really be okay to do many of the rough things he regularly saw in porn videos.

Unfortunately, that's all too common these days.  Even mainstream porn is now increasingly violent and extreme, and it's easy for people who have been in serious relationships to forget that young people have no way to tell what is pure fantasy and what isn't.

The guide seemed to fill a need, so I thought I would post it here as a companion to that earlier article.  Here's a slightly expanded version of what I wrote: