My husband and I have been doing tantra since we found your blog a year and a half ago, and we absolutely love it! (Thank you!) But we’ve run into a snag lately, and I'm hoping you can help.
Here’s the situation: We’ve done all the preliminaries and I’ve given him a really nice lingam massage. I’m pretty turned on by that and I can feel the juices flowing. Then I get up on the table for my turn. He gives me a long wonderful massage, back and front. I’m meditating and loving the feel of his hands.
Then he starts the yoni part of the massage and it feels great. I’m doing the inside focus thing to spread the charge around, and I’m really feeling good and starting to squirm and rock my hips a little, so he starts some oral, and that feels even better, and he starts to slide his fingers into me, then STOPS, and asks me what’s wrong.
“Nothing, why?” “You’re not turned on.” “I am too! “No, you aren’t. You’re still dry inside.”