Last summer at about this time I posted (in First Orgasms, and How Women Vary) about a young couple who were struggling with a common problem: Sara's inability to have orgasms, either alone or during sex with her boyfriend Sam. I posted the story because it had an exuberantly happy ending, but also because it was a good hook for discussing the very wide range of differences between normal women in terms of sex drive, orgasmic threshold, masturbation habits, and especially the ages at which they become sexual and orgasmic.
That post ended with a note from Sara celebrating her breakthrough and her first three orgasms ever. But in posting it, I seem to have opened the floodgates. Ever since then, I have been getting a steady stream of requests for help with problems that I would describe as "pre-tantra" - the kinds of sexual issues that need to be dealt with before you can move on to learning real tantric sex.
