tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post2373126681595146815..comments2024-03-11T00:04:47.047-07:00Comments on Extraordinary Passion: Understanding the Male OrgasmShakti Amaranthahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16204671934660827381noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-40709964967123479052021-05-08T18:01:39.547-07:002021-05-08T18:01:39.547-07:00I think what you said in one of the comments above...I think what you said in one of the comments above is not stressed enough but very important. I've been doing a long squeeze, thus forcing a retrograde ejaculation for a long time, and only now do I realize the mistake!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-78016608013804304992021-01-17T06:40:17.061-08:002021-01-17T06:40:17.061-08:00Great article like many of your others :)
Just one...Great article like many of your others :)<br />Just one thing ...when you said "what he is NOT doing is holding a long squeeze..." it threw me a little bit - surely that is exactly what is being described as the way to do it, providing the squeeze begins early enough... I'm not sure I understand the difference! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-65294094064258516432020-04-14T00:07:11.863-07:002020-04-14T00:07:11.863-07:001. Correct. Keeping all of the muscles in your low...1. Correct. Keeping all of the muscles in your lower body relaxed will help delay an orgasm. But if you get to the point where an orgasm is about to happen anyway, tensing the PC muscles at just the right point will help convert a regular orgasm into an NEO.<br /><br />2. When Z comes during PIV, I can't tell any difference between wet and dry. When he comes during a lingam massage, I can obviously see the difference in outcome, but there's no difference in the timing. He simply does a fast, hard kegel at the right moment, a second or two before the regular contractions start.<br /><br />What he is NOT doing is contracting and holding a long squeeze, trying to block the semen and keep it from coming out. All that does is create retrograde ejaculation.Shakti Amaranthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16204671934660827381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-1358767692369237642020-04-13T23:48:33.547-07:002020-04-13T23:48:33.547-07:00On the first question, I guess you'd have to t...On the first question, I guess you'd have to trust the guys who say it feels like a regular orgasm, minus the sensation of blobs of semen moving in the tube. My SO says the contractions feel the same to him whether they are wet or dry, and the timing isn't under his control.<br /><br />"Is it possible for someone trained to have a dry orgasm, to also experience a dry orgasm by manually contracting the muscles?"<br /><br />I don't know of anyone who does it just like that, but I did discuss a similar possibility with Jack in "Male Orgasm and Ejaculation Control" https://moderntantra.blogspot.com/2014/01/jack-lita-male-orgasm-control.html.<br /><br />Have a look. The question is whether he uses a general muscle tensing to trigger a dry orgasm instead of a kegel.<br /><br />"how is it determined that the emission phase is blocked and that the semen did not go to the bladder instead or just remains in the urethra without being expulsed instead?"<br /><br />Well, usually it's simple. If you did NOT lose your erection after an orgasm, it was a genuine NEO. But another way of checking is to pee in a glass jar after your orgasm. If your urine is cloudy or has stringy blobs in it, you had a retrograde ejaculation. If it's clear, you had a genuine dry orgasm.Shakti Amaranthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16204671934660827381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-24750980071479629952020-04-03T10:26:36.814-07:002020-04-03T10:26:36.814-07:00When someone has a dry orgasm by blocking phase on...When someone has a dry orgasm by blocking phase one, then how is it known that the following contractions are from the signal for phase two and not manual contractions that are performed because of something like conditioning? Is it possible for someone trained to have a dry orgasm, to also experience a dry orgasm by manually contracting the muscles?<br /><br />Another question, how is it determined that the emission phase is blocked and that the semen did not go to the bladder instead or just remains in the urethra without being expulsed instead? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-76649756149437092982019-07-07T13:34:49.626-07:002019-07-07T13:34:49.626-07:00I'm having a difficult time understanding how ...I'm having a difficult time understanding how to use kegels during sex, in order to last longer. There seems to be a lot of contrasting information out there. <br /><br />- on The Best Ways to Control Premature Ejaculation post, one of the suggestions was to use a *reverse* Kegel or The Push ("Like pushing out a bowel movement, but more gently")<br />- In this post, it says using a regular clenched kegel is how you can have a dry orgasm, leading to lasting longer<br />- However, in the book Coping With Premature Ejaculation by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz they basically infer that you need to relax, not clench your PM muscle during sex: <br /><br />“First, because total body relaxation is the foundation for good ejaculatory control, attention to relaxing the PM during sexual activity is an efficient way to relax your whole body. If your PM relaxes, your whole body will follow. Second, when you keep your PM relaxed, the muscles involved in ejaculation are relaxed, reserved, or held back. Otherwise, you’d be “priming the pump” of ejaculation by reflexively tightening the PM during sexual excitement.”<br />(Though, they do acknowledge that different things work for different people. i.e. clenching and tiring out the PM helps some men to last longer)<br /><br />1) Is the passage from the book about needing to regularly relax the PM compatible with Tantra, or do they contradict each other? I gather that maybe it’s best to keep the PM relaxed — except when trying to have a dry orgasm (via clenching the PM). <br /><br />2) If one is to use the kegel method for dry orgasms, and relatedly lasting longer, what does this look like during sex? For these during-sex kegels to produce dry-orgasms, is it simply a brief, few second squeeze? From my experience, squeezing the PM during sex is tricky to do, and it's not very relaxing! I’m picturing stopping and/or asking your partner to stop while you clench your PM. Marco Dnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-56704343431306811252019-07-07T13:30:58.034-07:002019-07-07T13:30:58.034-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-83623117879489562142018-10-07T09:02:36.891-07:002018-10-07T09:02:36.891-07:00This sounds like fun. I might have an advantage ov...This sounds like fun. I might have an advantage over others. My whole life, I have been a small cummer. If it has been a few days, I ejaculate a good amount for me albeit a small amount for others. However, it is my one decent load which probably averages a quarter teaspoon or less. I cannot recall cumming more than that. If I cum again, it is just some drops. Some would say I am dry. After that, there is nothing, maybe just a squishy sound. In my entire life, I have never had a wet dream due to the lack of production. My thinking is that my dryness might allow me to have multiple orgasms because other than my first orgasm, I am wanting more relief. I never have that drained feeling that others talk about and have orgasmed up to 7 times in one night. I will have to try some of the methods. By the way, my name is fake, not a female. BRUCEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15194583602097378418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-8122784354456575932017-05-14T10:47:09.228-07:002017-05-14T10:47:09.228-07:00Wow finally got the solution, works amazing,now I ...Wow finally got the solution, works amazing,now I can hold as much i can and this Kegel helps me to take my partner to a new level. Thanks<br />I m missing your new blog and we are waiting for your new update.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-60886856649000135782017-03-29T17:38:53.064-07:002017-03-29T17:38:53.064-07:00Thanks for the suggestion!
I'll have to get m...Thanks for the suggestion!<br /><br />I'll have to get my SO to experiment with it ... hopefully WITHOUT the same after-effects! :)Shakti Amaranthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16204671934660827381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-28651338001719266652017-03-14T20:45:51.880-07:002017-03-14T20:45:51.880-07:00Another source suggested deliberately relaxing the...Another source suggested deliberately relaxing the lower abdominals at the penultimate moment. As an experiment, I told my ex to relax his, placing my hand on them at the same time, just when he seemed to be at the brink. The dry orgasm and ability to keep going blew his mind. <br /><br />It probably also served as a catalyst in the ending of our relationship. He looked at me like I was a three headed witch for weeks after. :(D. Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15990434456143490319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-47166930658356795062016-11-04T13:25:48.708-07:002016-11-04T13:25:48.708-07:00Great information. Thank you.Great information. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-38951476110471422382016-03-24T22:01:51.555-07:002016-03-24T22:01:51.555-07:00Understanding phase one helped me finally to keep ...Understanding phase one helped me finally to keep my semen and having long and stormy orgasms, one after another. And then they became just one long ecstasy. Before I was reading a lot about it and was having some success. But this article is the ultimate key to have dry orgasms whenever I want. And for how long want.<br />Thank you. Love you for that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7299662952978736845.post-28576707885521877352016-03-03T21:56:45.924-08:002016-03-03T21:56:45.924-08:00Thanks for the info mam :) Keep updating us. Thanks for the info mam :) Keep updating us. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com